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Being with your Mother

Posted by Haris Gulzar on January 17, 2011

I copied the following from the shared items of a friend. This is worth reading…
After 21 years of marriage, my wife wanted me to take another woman out to dinner and a movie.
She said, “I love you, but I know this other woman loves you and would Love to spend some time with you.”


The other woman that my wife wanted me to visit was my Mother, who has been a widow for 19 years, but the demands of my work and my three children had made it possible to visit her only occasionally.
That night I called to invite her to go out for dinner and a movie.
“What’s wrong, are you well?” she asked.
My mother is the type of woman who suspects that a late night call or a surprise invitation is a sign of bad news.
“I thought that it would be pleasant to spend some time with you,” I responded. “Just the two of us.”
She thought about it for a moment and then said, “I would like that very much.”
That Friday after work, as I drove over to pick her up, I was a bit nervous. When I arrived at her house, I noticed that she, too, seemed to be nervous about our date. She waited in the door with her coat on. She had curled her hair and was wearing the dress that she had worn to celebrate her last wedding anniversary. She smiled from a face that was as radiant as an angel’s.
“I told my friends that I was going to go out with my son and they were impressed,” she said, as she got into the car. “They can’t wait to hear about our meeting.”
We went to a restaurant that, although not elegant, was very nice and cozy. My mother took my arm as if she were the First Lady.
After we sat down, I had to read the menu. Her eyes could only read large print. Half-way through the entrees, I lifted my eyes and saw Mother sitting there staring at me. A nostalgic smile was on her lips.
“It was I who used to have to read the menu when you were small,” she said.
“Then it’s time that you relax and let me return the favor,” I responded.
During the dinner , we had an agreeable conversation nothing extraordinary but catching up on recent events of each other’s life. We talked so much that we missed the movie.
As we arrived at her house later, she said, “I’ll go out with you again, but only if you let me invite you.”
I agreed.
“How was your dinner date?” asked my wife when I got home.
“Very nice, much more so than I could have imagined,” I answered.
A few days later, my mother died of a massive heart attack. It happened so suddenly that I didn’t have a chance to do anything for her.
Sometime later, I received an envelope with a copy of a restaurant receipt from the same place Mother and I had dined. An attached note said:
“I paid this bill in advance. I wasn’t sure that I could be there; but, nevertheless, I paid for two plates – one for you and the other for your wife. You will never know what that night meant for me. I love you, son.”
At that moment, I understood the importance of saying in time: ‘I love YOU’ and to give our loved ones the time that they deserve.
Nothing in life is more important than your family. Give them the time they deserve, because these things cannot be put off till some “other” time.

19 Responses to “Being with your Mother”

  1. Raaji said

    Good one :-). Too often we forget that.

  2. Leenah said

    It leaves my eyes moist.

    I wish I could tell that to my mother just one more time…..

  3. anummunaf said

    really touching

  4. captureuniverse said

    wo lamhey jab yaad ayain…..Palkon se ansoo tap tap bahain…. 🙂
    beautiful…. 🙂

  5. Ali Adnan said

    nice that u shared it jiger 🙂 I read it long time ago and it got me quite emotional 🙂

    The thing is that we all love our parents very much .. whats lacking is showing it to them practically and saying these simple words to them.

  6. Wow! That’s powerful.

    Happy blogoversary 🙂

  7. Moodyguy said

    Nice sharing, and mums are just great na 🙂

  8. Bessy said

    this is really nice. 🙂 mashaAllah.

  9. naveedtaji said

    This is really awesome post i really like it. Keep it up. 😀

  10. Leena S. said

    that was sweet! thank God that culturally we still have respect for our elders and acknowledge the sacrifices that they have made for us….obviously not as often as we should but it kinda scares me wen I think of our next generation

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  12. It was heart touching!

  13. My CanDle said

    beautiful and thought provoking story stuuning i read this story touched my heart and thoughts

  14. Taheem said

    بہت ہی اچھا بلاگ ہے
    ماشاءاللہ ایسے ہی شیئرینگ جاری رکھئے

  15. Thank you so very much for your comments everyone… I’m sorry for not being able to reply to your comments earlier. Do keep visiting my blog and do keep on posting your comments. Thank you once again

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  18. Yes, that was worth the read. Thanks for copying and pasting for us.

  19. Family matters. Always.

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