Lessons Learnt – Part 2
Posted by Haris Gulzar on February 21, 2010
This semester is taking up too much of my time. One thing that I have really learnt while living at a hostel is how to manage time, as I said in my previous Lessons Learnt post. I don’t know if it has to do with living at home or living away or not but for me, hostel life has really taught me how to distribute time to what needs to be done, keeping in view the pending tasks. It has been good so far but I really hope it continues in a seamless way Insha-Allah. One of the most comforting thoughts that comes after I think about all the difficulties in managing my time is that this going to be my last semester here Insha-Allah… 🙂
Here are a few more lessons that I think life has taught me. Click here to read Part 1.
1) Learn to fail. Failing is the best form of learning. Any task that we take up, we should have in mind the fact that we can fail and the task might not be completed. Although this thought might hinder your performance but if you fail without expecting to fail, it hurts bad. This thinking should never hinder you from doing what you want to do, and above all, the failure should be taken as an experiment and a way to correct yourself from making the same mistake in future.
“I have not failed, I have just found 10,000 ways that won’t work”. ~Thomas Edison
2) Learn to Forgive. One of my teachers once said that we should only take good memories with us and leave behind the bad memories. Although very trivial, but it is just so true. Life is unfair, and we should accept it. I don’t know how many of you would agree with me that a lot of times we feel undone or treated unjustly but that’s what life is all about. This doesn’t mean you should not try to get what you deserve, but taking revenge is not always the right policy. In fact sometimes forgiving is a better policy and teaches the opposition a lesson that couldn’t have been taught otherwise.
“Always forgive your enemy, nothing annoys them so much”. ~Laura Moncur
3) Apologize. Listening to what others have to say can more often than not tell you where you were wrong and what and how things should have done. We should accept our mistakes if we made any and should apologize if what and how we did things hurt someone. We shouldn’t stick to our position and enforce our stance onto others. At times we do/say something without realizing the intensity or the different interpretations that others can have out of it. Although the right sorts of people shouldn’t need an apology and should understand you, but it won’t degrade you if you apologize.
"If you even dream of beating me you’d better wake up and apologize." ~Mohammad Ali