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Lessons Learnt – Part 1

Posted by Haris Gulzar on December 20, 2009

Life is a teacher. It teaches with examples. It makes you learn things by experiencing them first hand. And that is proven to be the best learning method. And above all, the lessons never end. Each day you get to learn either an old lesson through a new example, or a new lesson altogether. At times we try and make the message out of what we face, out of the examples that life makes us go through. Not always do we successfully decode the message, but at times we succeed as well. If we don’t, that’s when life has to come up with a totally new example for us. Here, I plan to write some of the lessons I have learnt so far, and I hope to continue this series as and when I get to experience more stuff from life…

Lesson 1: Make friends. Make trustworthy friends. Life is just too difficult to live without friends. Now there is a difference between a friend and an acquaintance. Or even better put, there is a difference between a best friend and a friend. A friend is someone you talk to, you hangout with, you share your things with, but a best friend is someone who you don’t necessarily talk to, but think of when you’re alone. A best friend is someone who you don’t have to hangout with, because he is always with you, may it be physically or otherwise. A best friend is someone you share your feelings with…

Lesson 2: Move on. Life never stops. What has happened in past has already happened. You cannot do anything about it. Although you can definitely learn a lot from your past, but you shouldn’t live in your past. As they say, “Cry as hard as you want to, but just make sure that when you stop crying, you will never cry again for the same reason”. Crying again and again on what you lost in past is no use. Your future definitely has many better things in store for you.

Lesson 3: Be a kid occasionally. In fact I’d say, be an adult only occasionally. Ever noticed how a kid finds his enjoyment? Kids start playing from virtually anything, may it be a colored wrapper or boxed packing of a toy. They’d turn the box up and down, find where to open the box from, try their best to do whatever it takes to open the box. And more often than not, they succeed in doing what they wanted to do. Even if they don’t, they just throw that box away and go for something else. They find a new enjoyment in no time. That’s how I think we should live. Try our best at something we want to do, put in the maximum effort, but if the results aren’t favorable, move on. Put your hands on something else. I think you have to let go of your maturity at times, and enjoy life just as kids do.

Lesson 4: First things first. We need to prioritize things. ALWAYS. Most of the times we fail at things because we didn’t know how important they are. Those electricity and telephone bills can always be paid tomorrow, but your family needs time first. Your parents need your time, your children need your time, your spouse needs your time. You’ll feel great yourself when you take out time to take your children to a park and run after them and let them win a race. You’ll feel great when your spouse is happy because of the time you give him/her, or when you take your parents to a trip to where they really wanted to be.

You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough – Mae West

In three words I can sum up everything I’ve learned about life; It goes on – Robert Frost


23 Responses to “Lessons Learnt – Part 1”

  1. Umer Tur said

    The time spent in silence with ‘best friends’ is what I enjoy most in their company.

    Less0n 2 ~ Can we term it as a Sunk Cost 😉

    Truly, these are widely applicable lessons…

  2. Raza said

    Awesome thoughts Haris. I totally agree with the 3rd lesson btw! 🙂

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  4. Rambler said

    Very (Y)

    Agree totally with #1, #2 and #4 🙂
    As for lesson # 2, sometimes it’s very hard to move on 🙂

  5. thanks for the post, it was nice to refresh my beliefs!


  6. Habayeb said

    awesome post! love the 1st and 3rd one!

  7. Sabahat said

    Don’t just exist; LIVE! 🙂

  8. brocasarea said

    i like lesson 3 and even follow it 🙂

  9. @Umer Toor: Agreed. Time spent in silence with friends is the best time ever!! And your past is definitely a sunk cost :-)…

    @Raza: Thank you, and I thought you’d agree with all four of them? 😛

    @Rambler: Point 3 was well thought out as well, why don’t you agree with that? :-P. And yeah I agree, sometimes its very difficult to move on. Its easier said than done, but moving on is the only option left once things are out of your control.

    @Nayyar: Thank you so very much, and welcome to Amar Bail. I hope you keep visiting and commenting on this blog :-).

    @Habayeb: Welcome to Amar Bail :-).

    @Sabahat: Short and meaningful. Thats so very deep and true. We merely exist in this world :-(. We should start living…

    @Brocasarea: I can understand :-). Thats what you can relate your goal in life with right? A paediatrician?

  10. Brilliant post you have here!
    i loved lesson three, its so true, if we did start to enjoy life as a kid this world would be a different place.

  11. that summed up actually twitched the light in my head!

  12. @[[[ X SMILEY X ]]]: Thank you :-). Enjoying life the way kids do is definitely one thing missing from our lives…

    @AD: 🙂

  13. brocasarea said

    yeah 🙂 🙂

  14. Intricate said

    Nice post..
    The quotes in the end are good 🙂

  15. @Intricate: Thank you :-). You’ll soon see more quotes on my blog Insha-Allah…

  16. mansisg said

    WOW… Awesome…

    I am speechless..:) I wanna a sum up everything in just two words “Great Post” 🙂
    Love this quote “Cry as hard as you want to, but just make sure that when you stop crying, you will never cry again for the same reason”

    Keep Writing Gulzar

  17. @Mansisg: Thank you so very much… I’ll try my best to keep writing, and I hope you’ll keep visiting…

  18. jia arshad said

    great post:)bt haris bhai sumtines its vry hard to move on n sumtimes a prsn feels it impoosible ….n if we move on,, the space in our lyf remains in sum cases…
    n i liked all the points alot!its just like a candle which shows the better path…..i hope u r getting wat im trying to say:)

  19. @Jia: Thank you :-). First of all, nothing is impossible. If someone is living in his past, it can’t be because it is impossible to move on, but only because he doesn’t want to move on, and I think living in past doesn’t yield anything. Live never stops, so shouldn’t we. And thank you for liking the post 🙂

  20. jia arshad said

    ur welcome n thanx 4 ur advice:)

  21. […] Here are a few more lessons that I think life has taught me. Click here to read Part 1. […]

  22. I learnt from your post too…specially…live as a kid and move on with new things but be sure, never let go your good relations and the people who make your life; in other words who make you breath and buck up you to live your life 🙂

  23. my all time favourite quotes in here..! Lesson 2 is the most difficult though.. write more about it..

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