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Lessons Learnt – Part 1

Posted by Haris Gulzar on December 20, 2009

Life is a teacher. It teaches with examples. It makes you learn things by experiencing them first hand. And that is proven to be the best learning method. And above all, the lessons never end. Each day you get to learn either an old lesson through a new example, or a new lesson altogether. At times we try and make the message out of what we face, out of the examples that life makes us go through. Not always do we successfully decode the message, but at times we succeed as well. If we don’t, that’s when life has to come up with a totally new example for us. Here, I plan to write some of the lessons I have learnt so far, and I hope to continue this series as and when I get to experience more stuff from life…

Lesson 1: Make friends. Make trustworthy friends. Life is just too difficult to live without friends. Now there is a difference between a friend and an acquaintance. Or even better put, there is a difference between a best friend and a friend. A friend is someone you talk to, you hangout with, you share your things with, but a best friend is someone who you don’t necessarily talk to, but think of when you’re alone. A best friend is someone who you don’t have to hangout with, because he is always with you, may it be physically or otherwise. A best friend is someone you share your feelings with…

Lesson 2: Move on. Life never stops. What has happened in past has already happened. You cannot do anything about it. Although you can definitely learn a lot from your past, but you shouldn’t live in your past. As they say, “Cry as hard as you want to, but just make sure that when you stop crying, you will never cry again for the same reason”. Crying again and again on what you lost in past is no use. Your future definitely has many better things in store for you.

Lesson 3: Be a kid occasionally. In fact I’d say, be an adult only occasionally. Ever noticed how a kid finds his enjoyment? Kids start playing from virtually anything, may it be a colored wrapper or boxed packing of a toy. They’d turn the box up and down, find where to open the box from, try their best to do whatever it takes to open the box. And more often than not, they succeed in doing what they wanted to do. Even if they don’t, they just throw that box away and go for something else. They find a new enjoyment in no time. That’s how I think we should live. Try our best at something we want to do, put in the maximum effort, but if the results aren’t favorable, move on. Put your hands on something else. I think you have to let go of your maturity at times, and enjoy life just as kids do.

Lesson 4: First things first. We need to prioritize things. ALWAYS. Most of the times we fail at things because we didn’t know how important they are. Those electricity and telephone bills can always be paid tomorrow, but your family needs time first. Your parents need your time, your children need your time, your spouse needs your time. You’ll feel great yourself when you take out time to take your children to a park and run after them and let them win a race. You’ll feel great when your spouse is happy because of the time you give him/her, or when you take your parents to a trip to where they really wanted to be.

You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough – Mae West

In three words I can sum up everything I’ve learned about life; It goes on – Robert Frost


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