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Does the crack remain?

Posted by Haris Gulzar on August 3, 2009

Long ago I heard from someone:

Friendship is like a china ware,

Always precious, rich and rare,

Once broken, can be mended,

But the crack is always there…

Is it true? Can the crack ever be mended? What good is that friendship for if it can be broken? Or is it just us to be that stupid to think there is a crack in our friendship, when actually there isn’t?


18 Responses to “Does the crack remain?”

  1. I don’t know why but I have a feeling that the title isn’t grammatically correct :-(. Is it?

  2. N.A. said

    The title’s absolutely fine.
    As for the post, well, I think in temporal relationships, cracks do kind of remain. However, in your relationship with your Lord, the crack NEVER remains. Same is the case with those who, on this earth, let their relationships thrive only for Allah’s sake. Just a point of view 🙂 Allah knows best!

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  4. I think the crack shows up when we repeat the things that caused upset in the friendship. Depending on the nature of the friendship, it might be either a hairline fracture or a real crack. The hairline fractures are just part of the imperfections of this life, which will spill over into friendships. The crack can be mended, but the memory of what caused the crack may take time to fade.

    That was just a random stream of consciousness in response to your question 🙂

  5. zain said

    i think it is just we stupid that think that some crack is there and actually it is not

  6. Asad Ali said

    @ Title…Fine

    agreed with NA & Digital Nomad , I think it depends upon the type of relationship & how we are really nurturing it…crack may be there , however it can be filled up again:)

  7. Asad Ali said

    I can forgive, but I cannot forget, is only another way of saying, I will not forgive. Forgiveness ought to be like a cancelled note – torn in two, and burned up, so that it never can be shown against one. ~Henry Ward Beecher

    I hope won’t mind my ” Multi commenting” infact, I read it after the previous comment…

  8. me and my best friend had a crack in our friendship and it had to be put null and void.
    i speak from experience.
    it does hurt still..
    but i chose to move on!

  9. Jafar said

    یاری اور دوستی میں فرق ہوتاہے جی
    یہ کریک شریک دوستی میں‌ تو آسکتے ہیں یاری میں‌ نہیں
    تو جتنے آپ کے دوست ہیں، ان کو یار بنالیں
    ایک مشورہ بھی ہے کہ یاروں سے ایسا تعلق رکھیں جیسا محبوب سے ہوتا ہے کہ محبوب کی بری باتیں بھی اچھی لگتی ہیں

  10. Asad Ali said

    Kia baat hay ji – Jafar bahi..!

  11. brocasarea said

    happy friendship day[:)]

  12. Thank you all for your worthy comments. Sorry for the late reply…

    @N.A: You’re so right. The friendship we see and long for is temporal and one day or the other, the crack will probably show up, but the permanent friendship can NEVER have cracks. Thank you for such a nice comment.

    @Digital Nomad: Thats very well said. I think a crack is a crack, may it be a hairline fracture or a full grown up crack, it is a crack after all, and somehow or the other, the memory that caused the crack stays back :-(. But I agree to what N.A said, this happens only in temporal relationships.

    And yeah, Welcome to Amar Bail :-).

    @Zain. Probably yes, and probably no. Not sure really :-(. If we see a crack, does it really mean there is a crack? Anyways, thank you so very much for your comment.

    @Asad: Filling a crack and getting rid of it are probably two different things. Filling it may not be that pleasing. And you can comment however many times you want to. I’d love to read what you have to say. Thank you for your comments.

    @AD: The point really is, as you say, it does hurt still. I hope some day this pain stops, thats when the crack will actually be removed, but can it really be removed, is the question… 😦

  13. @Jafar: یار جعفر، دل خوش کر دیا۔ یقین کرو مزہ آیا کمنٹ پڑھ کر۔ بہت خوب، واقعی بہت خوب۔ اور میں نے جان بوجھ کے اپنا جواب “یار” سے شروع کیا ہے۔

    ویسے بہت عرصہ ہوا کوئی پوسٹ نہیں دیکھی آپکے بلاگ پہ۔ امید ہے ساری خیریت ہوگی انشاأللہ۔ میرا بلاگ اسی طرح پڑھتے رہیئے گا اور کمنٹ کرتے رہئے گا۔

    @Brocasarea: Thank you so very much brother, and happy friendship day to you too. By the way, I guess we’re a couple of days late :-).

  14. siras said

    I don’t know, but according tome, it depends on the sort of person you and your friend are. There are people who with a few bad days will forget everything good, then there are people who will always remember the good and try to make it work. It just depends.

  15. Asad Ali said

    hummmm.! right but that’s may be the least you can do about it….

  16. Jafar said

    میری بلاگ فیڈ کے ایڈریس میں کچھ پنگا ہے، آپ اسے درج ذیل ایڈریس سے اپ ڈیٹ کرلیں۔۔۔

  17. @Siras: Well, you’re right, but the question really is, can it really be the same if you try to make it work. Will the crack EVER be removed. Trying to make it work is good, but things never remain the same do they?

    @Asad: Yeah probably…

    @Jafar: Thank you for the update.

  18. Zee said

    It can never be the same. No matter what!

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